Brain Link. Emotional Intelligence or EQ begins in your brain. EQ alerts you to behaviors that can cause you difficulty in life and with relationships or to behaviors that can direct you toward success in life and with relationships. EQ does not force you to select healthier behaviors. It gives you a choice. What you choose has ramifications that can last a lifetime—and that sometimes can influence not only your present generation, but also upcoming generations, perhaps to the 4th generation.
What really matters for success, character, happiness, and lifelong achievements is a definite set of emotional skills—your EQ—and not just purely cognitive abilities that are measured by conventional IQ tests. Emotional intelligence is the difference that makes a difference. —Daniel J. Goleman, PhD
Most people who are interested in Emotional Intelligence (EQ) likely know the name of Daniel J. Goleman, PhD. He was a science journalist at the New York Times until 1996, covering psychology, emotions, and the brain. He was twice nominated for the Pulitzer Prize for his work. In 1995 he wrote his international bestseller “Emotional Intelligence: Why it Can Matter More than IQ,” which spent more than 18 months on the Best Seller list. Dr. Goleman is credited with making research about Emotional Intelligence accessible to the general public.
Emotional Intelligence or Emotional Quotient (EQ) is not an emotion in and of itself. Rather, as Pearl Zhu defined it, “EQ is the ability to harness emotions and apply them to tasks like thinking and problem solving. A high EQ mind maintains its composure whatever the situation, whether it is being glorified or vilified.”
Emotional Intelligence is a way of recognizing, understanding, and choosing how we think, feel, and act. It shapes our interactions with others and our understanding of ourselves. It defines how and what we learn; it allows us to set priorities; it determines the majority of our daily actions. Research suggests it is responsible for as much as 80% of the “success” in our lives. —Joshua Freedman
According to researcher Candace B. Pert, PhD, the body and 80% of the brain are part of the subconscious, faithfully recording and reporting chemical processes that enter your conscious awareness only as you recognize them as emotions. A specific neuropeptide (molecules used by neurons to communicate with each other) may be associated with each emotion so that you can experience only one core emotion at a time—although you can rapidly alternate among them.
When in the grip of a strong emotion, you are in a biochemically altered state. —Candace B. Pert, PhD
Think of EQ as a label for skills in at least five areas that are designed to help you manage emotions effectively and successfully. The five skills are:
1) Identifying emotions quickly and accurately
2) Understanding emotions and the message each is trying to convey
3) Regulating emotions effectively
4) Using emotions successfully
5) Choosing appropriate actions and behaviors that will result in positive outcomes
In a study of skills that distinguish star performers in every field from entry-level jobs to executive positions, the single most crucial factor was not IQ, advanced degrees, or technical experience, it was EQ. Of the competencies required for excellent performance in the job studies, 67% were emotional competencies. —Daniel J. Goleman, PhD
The term epigenetics was introduced in 1942 by embryologist Conrad Waddington and includes everything that is not genetics. This area of biological and scientific study has revealed how environmental and molecular factors—positive and negative—can impact how genes are expressed independent of altering DNA sequencing. At times, epigenetics can even override genetics. Estimates are that genetics contributes about 30% to your health and wellness, while epigenetics contributes about 70%. This includes your lifestyle choices. Emotional Intelligence is part of that 70%. Raising your EQ is a way to become wiser and to contribute positively to your health and wellness.
Managing our emotions increases intuition and clarity. It helps us self- regulate our brain chemicals and internal hormones. It gives us natural highs, the real fountain of youth we’ve been searching for. It enables us to drink from elixirs locked within our cells, just waiting for us to discover them. —Doc Lew Childre Freeze Frame
View the Educational Video for Module #2. If possible, stand and walk in place for at least a portion of the video to increase blood blow to your brain
Emotional self-control—delaying gratification and stifling impulsiveness— underlies accomplishment of every sort. ―Daniel J. Goleman, PhD
Estimates are that about 500 of your 30,000 genes contribute to your Intelligence Quotient. Your IQ represents skills related to academic intelligence, of which perhaps 50-80% is inherited from your biological parents. Epigenetics—environment, lifestyle, and choice also contribute. A range rather than a static number, estimates are that potentially IQ could be raised by up to 30 points depending on where you start. IQ is said to contribute about 20% to your Success Quotient or overall success in life.
Unlike IQ, Emotional Intelligence is not inherited. Each individual develops High EQ—or not. EQ accounts for about 80% of your Success Quotient formula, which is IQ + EQ. Adding estimated percentages for IQ and EQ and the formula looks like this: 20% IQ + 80% EQ = 100% Success Quotient.
You may want to spend some time and effort raising your IQ. Allot time and effort to build EQ skills as well. According to Gunjan Bugde, EQ is more important for one’s success than IQ. However, in terms of relationships—personal and professional—EQ is vastly more important. In fact, low EQ lies at the doorstep of many of life’s relationship issues.
We are injured and hurt emotionally, not so much by other people or what they say and do not say, but by our own attitude and our own response.—Maxwell Maltz, MD
Emotions are neither right nor wrong, they simply are. Without emotions you would be like a clock without an energy source. How you respond to the information emotions provide and what you do with it can be either negative or positive, helpful or unhelpful. Emotions can be your Achilles’ heel or your Aladdin’s lamp. —Arlene R. Taylor, PhD
Emotions are innate. Triggered by internal and/or external stimuli, they connect the subconscious with the conscious mind, offering both information and energy. In the grip of a strong emotion, the brain, seeking congruity, recalls past events that involved a similar emotion, intensifying the present emotion.
There is an important difference between feeing and acting. —Candace B. Pert, PhD
Controlling your temper when the officer demands to see your license does not threaten your well-being; but you do risk a depressed immune system if you talk yourself out of your anger because you believe it unjustified. This speaks to the important of understanding that emotions are designed to give you information. Trying to discount this information (maybe you were taught never to be angry) may result in your failing to take appropriate protective actions to develop and maintain your personal boundaries.
People and events can only act as a trigger. You decide to react and can become mad, glad, angry, or loving. Maintaining negative (protective) emotions can result in the production of body chemicals that are dangerous when present in the wrong proportions (e.g., ACH, Adrenaline, Noradrenaline, cortisone). —Arnold Fox, MD & Barry Fox, PhD
Brain function research is changing the way people view the brain and emotions. As Dawson Church pointed out, “The Scientific world is having to rethink its priorities as it discovers that invisible human emotions have profound epigenetic effects.”
Thanks to the advent of brain scans, emotions have been observed on the face of the fetus during uterine scans. Emotions such as Joy, Anger, Sadness, and Fear are often referred to as core emotions. PET scans have shown that Joy lights up the brain’s left hemisphere. The protective emotions of anger, fear, and sadness light up the right hemisphere. All core emotions are positive, although the behaviors that often accompany the emotions are not always positive.
Non-human mammalian creatures are limited to anger, fear, loneliness, and joy. Non-human reptilian creatures are limited to primitive fight-or-flight responses. —Andrew Newberg, MD & Mark Robert Waldman
Each emotion is designed to alert you to specific situations in life. Raising your EQ may be easier when you understand the purpose of these four core emotions.
JOY is a signal that life is basically going well. It provides energy to live life to its fullness. Joy is said to be the only emotion that has no negative effects when maintained over time. Without Joy you may be unable to become the balanced, contented, productive individual you were intended to be. Joy is a state of mind that is created inside of you. (Happiness happens to you from an external source.)
The walls we build around us to keep sadness out also keeps out the joy. —Marcus Aurelius
Pseudo or false joy can lead to addictions, obsessions, compulsions, a sense of unreality, frustration, and even depression. As the famous nun, Mother Teresa, put it, a joyful heart is the inevitable result of a heart burning with love.
There are those who give with joy, and that joy is their reward. —Khalil Gibran
Euphoria represent a brief episode of intense joy. Attempts to straight-line euphoria usually require some type of addictive process that triggers the Brain Reward System to secrete dopamine, a neurotransmitter or chemical messenger. It has been referred to as the feel-better chemical. Neither the brain nor the body were designed to “live” at euphoria, however, as it is too intense and exhausting over time.
Joy is not in things. It is in us. —Richard Wagner
Anger is a signal that one or more of your personal boundaries have been invaded. It provides energy to create, implement, reassess or reset appropriate personal limits and maintain bona fide boundaries. According to Richard Restak, MD, anger and resentment are the most contagious of all emotions.
If you can’t recognize and deal with anger, you will likely begin to tolerate the intolerable. Holding onto anger, however, can result in being hurt from the anger itself. —Robert K. Cooper & Ayman Sawaf – Executive EQ
Without anger you may lack the motivation and energy to take appropriate corrective action, or you may become complacent and begin to tolerate the intolerable.
Anger or rage, while experienced by all children, may represent inherited behavioral tendencies. There is increasing evidence that irritability tends to run in families. Chronic anger and fear can trigger permanent changes in one’s chemical profile, which may actually become encoded in the genes and passed on to the next generation, which may become successively more aggressive. —Robin Karr-Morse & Meredith S. Wiley
Unmanaged anger can lead to bitterness, illness, injury, and even death. According to Ornstein and Sobel, anger is a core emotion that appears to be exhibited universally.
Holding onto anger is like grasping a hot coal with the intent of throwing it at someone else, and you are the one who gets burned. —Buddha
Unfortunately, anger has been misunderstood and misused. Society has also played a role in how males and females are socialized to deal with anger.
Anger and love are independent systems in the brain, although closely related. A person can be angry and still be in love. —Helen E. Fisher, PhD
For example, Jan Barr Stump, PhD in her book “What’s the Difference,” pointed out that males are inclined to turn jealous anger inward, confront the woman with it, or seek revenge. Females are more likely to respond with feelings of helplessness, betrayal, insecurity, and inadequacy. They tend to seek the support of a friend, make plans to get even, and to cry when alone.
Anger needs to be expressed appropriately and worked through in order for the person to be healthy. Misdirecting or suppressing anger completely are unhealthy forms of expressions. —Brent Q. Hafen, et al
Fear is a signal that you face some type of danger—actual or imagined. It is designed to activate the fight-flight response that triggers the release of stress hormones that can help you do whatever it takes to survive. Fear provides energy to take appropriate action for you and/or for others you love.
He who fears he will suffer, already suffers because of his fear. —Michel Eyquem de Montaigne
Without fear you may be unable to protect yourself. Imagined fear can create the same brain-body responses as fear that is triggered due to actual danger. Both worry and anxiety are believed to be forms of fear.
You can conquer almost any fear if you will only make up your mind to do so. For remember, fear doesn’t exist anywhere except in the mind. —Dale Carnegie
Unfortunately, there are many types of imagined fears that can be learned in childhood or as phobias. This is unfortunate because they trigger the fight-flight response with the accompanying stress hormones just as actual danger. With imagined fear, there is no immediate danger. However, people fear it is just around the corner and could be experienced at any time.
Only your mind can produce fear. —Kenneth Wapnick
Unmanaged fear can kill ideas, undermine confidence, and escalate into phobias and/or immobilization.
Worry never robs tomorrow of its sorrow; it only saps today of its joy. —Leo Buscaglia
Sadness is a signal that you have experienced a loss—real or imagined. It may involve something you thought you had that you no longer have. It may be something you wanted such as a new job that did not materialize. A person who you would like to get to know, and perhaps even date may completely ignore you. Sadness provides energy to grieve losses, heal woundedness, and recover (to feel better again). Without sadness you may fail to grieve successfully and recover from your losses. Sorrow and grieving help the brain to accept the loss and heal from the experiences or events that cannot be changed.
People who grieve normally tend not to get depressed, even though they can be overwhelmingly sad during the period that follows bereavement or loss. —Nancy McWilliams
During the process of grieving, feelings of sadness may come in waves of intensity. Gradually they can become less intense and less frequent. Unmanaged sadness can suppress immune system function and lower levels of serotonin. Sadness differs from a Depressive Disorder. Sadness typically accompanies depression. However, studies suggest that repressed anger and the fear of expressing it may be more contributory to depression than is sadness.
Agitated and violent children may actually be sad, while passive or submissive women are internally consummated with rage. —P. H. Castel/Boris Herzberg
Tears in adult humans have been associated with emotional sadness. However, that is a gross generalization. Tears may well up from joy, anger, fear, sadness, deep emotion, music, poetry, and from almost any source or not at all. Human brains respond differently to emotion. Some find tears expressive and cathartic, others not so much.
Tears are words that the mouth cannot say nor can the heart bear. —Joshua Wisenbaker
Adult human crying is extremely complex. According to studies by NIH, adult crying includes vocalizations, tear production, the involvement of facial muscles, subjective emotional experience, emotion regulatory behaviors, and social behaviors. Many also have memories of being told in childhood, “If you don’t stop that crying, I will give you something to cry about.” Obviously, not an affirming memory. Every brain is different. Some people believe that every brain needs to cry, while others opine that all adult crying—especially by males—is a sign of weakness. Neither perspective appears to be accurate.
The same music which moves one person to tears has little or no effect on the other. —Abhaudev (Mayank Chandna)
Research related to what triggers adult human crying and the myriad of brain circuits that may be involved is basically in its infancy. It does appear that emotional crying can wash away toxic substances; also, that people with a Brain Bent in the right frontal lobe tend to be more likely to express deep emotion through tears, as language is based in the left hemisphere (unless as occurs in a few instances, the two hemispheres have switched places in the brain). Studies estimate that females typically cry 4-5 times a month, while tears may well up in male eyes from 0-1 time per month. How much is related to socialization versus hormones or empathy is yet unknown.
Studies by Goleman found that women, on average, tend to be more aware of their emotions, exhibit empathy more openly, and are more adept interpersonally. Males, on the other hand, may be equally empathetic but may not verbalize it, choosing to do a helpful action instead.
I’m not crying because of you … I’m crying because my delusion of who you were was shattered by the truth of who you are. —Steve Maraboli
The Emotions Staircase portrays four core emotions along with euphoria—brief periods of extreme joy. All core emotions are positive, even though the behaviors exhibited around them may be negative. Joy is believed the only emotion with no negative consequences when maintained over time. Protective emotions—anger, fear, and sadness—all have negative consequences when maintained over time, such as immune system suppression.
Perhaps from socialization, human beings—at least initially—seem to identify primarily with anger or sadness. Males tend to identify the emotion of anger when anger, fear, or sadness arise, although they may briefly recognize fear and then move to anger. Perhaps this is because males are socialized not to show fear or sadness.
Females tend to identify primarily with sadness when the emotions of sadness, fear, or anger arise, although they may briefly experience anger and then move to sadness. Perhaps this is because females are socialized not to show anger.
Any fear or anger shifts energy and attention from the neocortex (3rd brain layer) to the reptilian brain (1st brain layer). —Joseph Chilton Pearce, MA
Misidentification of an emotion can result in a person taking inappropriate action and making hasty or unwise decisions. This can be a problem in relationships, especially if a child dies. The female may go to sadness and get stuck there. The male may go to anger and get stuck there, because he perceives his fix-it brain was unable to prevent or resolve the loss. Of course, no brain can prevent or fix everything. However, this disconnect with one person stuck at sadness and the other embroiled in anger can often result in relational conflict. The male may leave the relationship altogether, unwilling to stay in an environment that reminds him of being unable to prevent or “fix” the disaster. Sometimes the female leaves the relationship. Stuck in sadness, she may spiral down into depression and seem unable to continue the relationship.
Emotional competence is the single most important personal quality that each of us must develop and access to experience a breakthrough. Only through managing our emotions can we access our intellect and our technical competence. An emotionally competent person performs better under pressure. —Dave Lennick
Emotions have several functions. They:
1) Alert you and get your attention
2) Provide you with information
3) Connect the conscious with subconscious
4) Give you energy to take appropriate action
5) Help you make moral and ethical decisions
6) Bind your perceptions to your conscious beliefs, making whatever you are thinking about seem more real at the time
Emotions are released based on internal or external triggers, physical responses that alter the body’s physiology temporarily. Each core emotion comes with specific physiological markers, facial expressions, and typical actions and behaviors.
75% of careers are derailed for reasons related to emotional competencies, including the inability to handle interpersonal problems, unsatisfactory team leadership during times of difficulty or conflict or inability to adapt to change or elicit trust. —Center for Creative Leadership
The words emotions and feelings are often used interchangeably as synonyms. In fact, they represent two biologically different concepts. Emotions and feelings are mediated by two distinct neuronal systems and follow different pathways through the brain. —The Lancet Neurology, March 2004.
When an emotion arises in the brain, the frontal lobes try to interpret what the emotion means and how important it is to you. The brain’s conclusions result in your feelings. There are scores of feeling words for every core emotion. The frontal lobes also play a role in helping to modulate the expression of the emotion.
While you are not responsible for every emotion that arises, typically you can choose the feelings you want to hang onto long term—because your brain created the feelings to explain what it thinks the emotion meant. To change the way, you feel you must change the way you think—as feelings follow thoughts. If you do not like the way you feel, change the way you think and your self-talk.
High EQ helps you identify core emotions quickly and accurately, recognize the information they are providing, manage them effectively, and carefully select the actions you choose to exhibit. These skills also help you evaluate a situation quickly and accurately and determine what action (if any) is needed. You learn to estimate how much a given event or situation will matter in twelve months. If the probability is high, start problem-solving immediately. If low, open your mind’s door and let it go.
Genuine feelings cannot be produced, nor can they be eradicated … the body sticks to the facts. —Alice Miller
EQ can also help you identify how you really feel. Unfortunately, human beings often stuff the way they feel, instead of acknowledging that their brain created their feelings and, therefore, their brain can create different feelings. Pretending you do not feel angry, fearful, or sad, does not change the feelings. The body knows. You can learn to accurately identify your feelings, decide if you want to hang onto them, or change them by changing your thoughts.
A smile spurs a chemical reaction in the brain, releasing certain hormones including dopamine and serotonin. —Dr. Isha Gupta
Studies have shown that when you choose to smile—even if you don’t really feel like smiling at the moment—this alters chemicals in the brain that can help you change the way you are feeling. In addition to dopamine and serotonin, this can include endorphins and neuropeptides. Smiling also stimulates the brain’s reward system, which can further increase endorphins. Smiling may also lower blood pressure and heart rate and reduce anxiety. If you combine this with thinking of something for which you are thankful, some evidence suggests that even a forced smile can improve your mood.
When asked for your opinion, high EQ skills allow you not only to share as honestly and graciously as possible, but also to remain relatively indifferent as to whether your opinion is even accepted. This helps you avoid arguing or even badgering others to embrace your perspective. No one brain knows everything, so input from differing brains can increase the likelihood of a more optimum solution.
Any person capable of angering you becomes your master. —Epictetus
Many adults are thought to operate from the beliefs, attitudes, perceptions, expectations, and socialization skills that were absorbed subconsciously by the age of five. This includes emotions, the subsequent feelings created, as well as the behaviors linked with them. Typically, the subconscious mind—80% of your brain and your entire body—seems to find it easier to continue doing what is familiar and self-protective even if it is uncomfortable and less successful in the long term because it is familiar. Studies have shown that 95% or more of a person’s decisions, actions, and behaviors come from programming in their subconscious mind. This helps to explain how individuals can sabotage their goals and not even be aware of what they are doing.
We don’t see things as they are; we see them as we are. —Anais Nin
There are more nerve cells in your gut than anywhere else in your body outside of the brain. Thinking cells or neurons have also been found in your heart, solar plexus, and perhaps in every body organ. Raising your EQ requires conscious in-the-moment thoughts and actions. Living a balanced Lifestyle can help you stay aware and alert, carefully choosing the behaviors and actions you exhibit rather than reactively shooting from the hip and creating messes that may or may not be able to be cleaned up and burning bridges that may never be rebuilt.
Studies have shown that one 5-minute episode of mentally and emotionally recalling an experience of anger resulting in a rise in immune globulin A (IgA), followed by severe depletion, i. e., It took the body more than six hours to restore normal production of IgA. A single episode of remembering/recalling an experience of anger and frustration can suppress the immune system for a day. Imagine what a really angry outburst could do! —Doc Lew Childre & Howard Martin
As Paul Auster put it, “Adolescence feeds on drama.” High EQ can help you avoid unnecessary drama—sometimes even during adolescence and certainly during adulthood. Studies suggest that it likely takes until late 20’s, 30’s, or for some even 40’s before the brain is considered “mature”—although it can continue to mature and gain wisdom over a lifetime. As someone once pointed out, it is much easier to teach EQ skills to children than to try to help broken adults heal.
It can be proven that wounded people wound others. Walk circumspectly among wounded people, their injuries are deeply submerged in their brain’s amygdala, and without the time-tested practice of Emotional Intelligence (EQ), you might find yourself scared by association. Give your associations time to reveal their EQ or lack thereof. —Tracey Bond
Find out as much as possible about your ancestors; how they lived and how they died, the challenges they faced and how they dealt with them. Learn everything you can. Periodically review your own life to date. Take steps to recover from any unhealed woundedness, and always remember the lesson. Otherwise, you may get caught again in similar situations or circumstances.
Those who do not remember the past are condemned to repeat it. —George Santayana
Listen to Chapter #2 of Just the Facts audiobook. If possible, stand up or walk in place while you listen. You may need a drink of water to energize your brain.
Emotional Intelligence is the foundation of leadership. It balances flexibility with toughness, vision with passion, compassion with justice. —Amit Ray
Studies have found that there can be a huge and observable difference between the exhibited behaviors of those with low EQ versus high EQ. Following are examples.
Satisfied
Aware
Balanced
Peaceful
Balanced self-worth
Happy (thankful)
Frustrated
Unaware
Unstable
Restless
Low self-worth
Unhappy (sad)
Read them through a second time. This time as you read them, ask yourself a few questions.
1) Which set of characteristics best describes you currently?
2) Who would you like as a best friend?
3) Who would you like as a life partner?
4) Who would you like to hire as an employee?
Low EQ contributes to creating all manner of messes that generally need cleaning up. Whether they really are ever cleaned up is an entirely different matter, as low-EQ behaviors often have life-long consequences. As with water, EQ seeks its own level. Raise your EQ if you want to be attracted to those with high EQ and in turn be attractive to them.
Emotional processes operate at a much higher speed than thoughts, and often bypass the mind’s linear reasoning process entirely. —Joseph LeDoux, PhD
Three common behaviors represent low EQ and contribute heavily to conflict and misunderstandings. Some estimate that these behaviors may account for 75% or more of often avoidable conflict. Becoming more aware—metaphorically pulling your head out of the sand—can be empowering.
Taylor has described these as JOT behaviors:
J — jumping to conclusions that may be way off base or out in left field
O — overreacting and creating an emotional tsunami that can blow up a bridge and
ruin a relationship
T — taking things personally when they may have nothing to do with you
Never react emotionally to criticism. Analyze yourself to determine whether it is justified. If it is, correct yourself. Otherwise, go on about your business. —Norman Vincent Peale
AAA is the antidote to JOT behaviors. You can minimize JOT behaviors by implementing AAA behaviors, which can help to raise your EQ. AAA stands for:
Ask questions to clarify—instead of jumping to an erroneous conclusions
Act calmly as you assess the situation—to prevent a destructive emotional tsunami
Alter your perception or reframe the event—to avoid taking things personally
For every minute you remain angry, you give up 60 seconds of peace. If you lack emotional intelligence, whenever stress rises the human brain switches to autopilot and has an inherent tendency to do more of the same, only harder. Which often is precisely the wrong approach in today’s world. —Robert K. Cooper, PhD
Understanding willpower and knowing how to use it effectively can be immensely when raising your EQ. Willpower is a function of the prefrontal cortex (directly behind your forehead), one of the last portions of the brain believed to mature. Although it may be easier to access willpower after maturity increases, hopefully you have been developing and honing your decision-making and willpower skills since childhood.
Willpower rarely works well—if at all—to deprive yourself of something you already do for gratification, like trying to end a bad habit, especially one that involves addictive behaviors. Rather, it is designed to give you energy and perseverance to attain a specific goal, like hitting a target and then maintaining or exceeding it. It can help you create a new behavior or develop a healthier replacement behavior for one that is resulting in undesirable outcomes.
Willing yourself not to do something puts the thing you don’t want to do in working memory and you think constantly about it, which tends to increase the behavior. —Daniel M. Wegner, PhD
Learn to identify and experience all emotions. You can do this without “emoting” reactively or even taking any immediate action. Sometimes you just perceive things in a new way—like seeing something through a magnifying glass—that can help you avoid similar situations in the future or choose to respond differently to what cannot be avoided. Learn to recognize the information each emotion is trying to convey. Once you identify the emotion and get the information, use willpower to let the emotion go. It was just a signal, a messenger. Then choose an appropriate course of action that will give you positive outcomes. Sometimes that involves doing nothing now immediately, but learning what you will do or say in the future should a comparable situation arise.
CEOs are hired for their intellect and business expertise and fired for a lack of emotional intelligence. —Daniel J. Goleman, PhD
Everyday ask yourself the question: Do I want to experience peace of mind, or do I want to experience conflict? —Gerald Jampolsky, MD
View the short Birds ‘n Brains video #2. If possible, stand and walk in place for at least part of the video. You may need to drink a glass of water.
Out-of-control emotions can make smart people stupid. —Daniel J. Goleman, PhD
Emotional intelligence is not the opposite of ‘intelligence,’ it is not the triumph of heart over head—it is the unique intersection of both. —David Caruso
Concentrate on Module #2 for at least a week. Reread the information, listen to the audiobook excerpts, and review the videos. Estimates are that it takes four exposures to the added information for the average adult to really absorb the material and turn it into a new behavior. If you want positive results, rushing through the material just because you can, may not provide the desired outcome.
Use what you have been learning: a growth mindset and positive self-talk to help raise your EQ and integrate AAA replacement behaviors into your daily lifestyle. Emotional Intelligence fits hand in glove with mindset and self-talk. It also fits with self-awareness in the moment.
Slow down and enjoy life. It’s not only the scenery you miss by going too fast, but you also miss the sense of where you are going and why. ―Eddie Cantor
