Shame is an emotional interrupter. Likely a learned reaction (often from childhood), it can alert you to having exhibited a behavior outside desirable norms. Unhealthy shame tries to get you to believe that you are so flawed you don’t deserve to exist.
—Arlene R. Taylor

Healthy shame reminds you that you have made a mistake—because you are human. Unhealthy shame says that you are a mistake.
—Arlene R. Taylor