Blaming is an attempt to control events over which you are actually powerless. It is often part of the grieving process. (Viscott, David. MD. Emotional Resilience. p 119-120. NY: Crown Publishers Inc., 1996.)

When you blame you give away your power. It is one of the surest ways to remain stuck in a problem. (Hay, Louise L. You Can Heal Your Life. p 35. CA: Hay House, Inc., 1984.)

Blame is unhelpful. In most cases. Most parents did the best they could with the information they themselves absorbed as children. (Hay, Louise L. You Can Heal Your Life. p 9-11. CA: Hay House, Inc., 1984.)