Forgiveness means to grant free pardon and to give up all claim on account of an offense or debt. (Oxford English Dictionary)

Forgiveness means accepting the core of every human being as the same as yourself and giving them the gift of not judging them. You can be clear about whether or not a person’s behavior is acceptable and you can set your own personal boundaries without judging the individual. The Eastern greeting Namaste is similar in meaning to Hebrew and Hawaiian greetings, meaning “the self in me honors and salutes the self in you. Let go of your judgments and give yourself and others the gift of being who they are, accepting them for what they are, instead of rejecting them for not meeting your expectations. (Borysenko, Joan, PhD. Minding the Body, Mending the Mind. p 177-181. NY: A Bantam Book, 1988.)

Negative feelings (e.g., recrimination, resentment, remorse) can occupy the brain. Forgiveness is simply acknowledging that no debt exists. This is a gift people need to give themselves and others. (Cousins, Norman, MD (honorary). Head First. p 110-112. NY: Penguin Books, 1989.)

Forgiving means letting go of your hurt. Without doing this you cannot grow. People often keep their pain alive to show the world how badly treated they were. They damage themselves the most by doing this. You cannot correct or alter what has been done to you. Forgiving does not mean you have to be friends with the people who hurt you. It only means that you no longer allow your old hurt to cause you to suffer. If you are holding on to your hurt to show others that they injured you, you are wasting your life. If you expect others to apologize for hurting you and wait until they do, you will suffer for a long time. Let go. Forgive and move on. (Viscott, David, MD. Emotional Resilience. p 38-39. NY: Crown Publishing Group, 1996.)

Forgiveness means letting go of any debt the person owe you and giving up any attempt to retaliate for the harm they have done to you. It means letting go of resentment and surrendering your right to get even. (Sell, Charles. Unfinished Business. p 124-125. CO: Multnomah Press. 1989)

Forgiveness is both a decision and a real change in emotional experience. That change in emotion is related to better physical and emotional health. (Everett L. Worthington Jr., PhD, Campaign Director, A Campaign for Forgiveness research.

Forgiveness can be thought of as a decision to let go of resentment and thoughts of revenge. The act that hurt or offended you might always remain a part of your life, but forgiveness can lessen its grip on you and help you focus on other, positive parts of your life. Forgiveness can even lead to feelings of understanding, empathy and compassion for the one who hurt you. Forgiveness doesn't mean that you deny the other person's responsibility for hurting you, and it doesn't minimize or justify the wrong. You can forgive the person without excusing the act. Forgiveness brings a kind of peace that helps you go on with life. [Source]

Forgiveness is the renunciation or cessation of resentment, indignation or anger as a result of a perceived offense, disagreement, or mistake, or ceasing to demand punishment or restitution. (American Psychological Association. Forgiveness: A Sampling of Research Results. 2006. Sapients.Net Forgiveness: A Article on Forgiveness". 2011.

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