SEL is a school-based program that is designed to teach the entire spectrum of emotional intelligence abilities. This can be done from kindergarten through high school. There are many strategies that can be used. The "stop-light" metaphor, for example. When a child gets upset, they are taught to picture a stoplight:

  1. Red light. Stop. Calm down and think before you act.
  2. Yellow light. Think of options, their consequences, and select the best alternative.
  3. Green light. Try out your selection and see how it works.

(Zins, Joseph E., et al. Building Academic Success on Social and Emotional Learning: What does the Research Say? NY:Teacher's College Press, 2004)