©Arlene R. Taylor PhD
She was a trifle unsteady and leaning on her walker. Her knees trembled as if they might become entangled. But her eyes twinkled merrily and the million wrinkles on her face curved upward. Waving a utensil dramatically in her free hand she said in a cheery voice, "Remember to save your fork!"
At that precise moment a masterpiece cake rolled into the room on a silver teacart. In the shape of the Eiffel Tower it paid homage to Paris, her favorite city) It was Bette’s 98th birthday. We were gathered to celebrate Bette’s 98th birthday, wish her well, and support her goal to live to be at least 100.
As the festivities wound down, the birthday girl struggled to her feet to thank us for our presence and good wishes. She concluded by repeating the words: "Remember to save your fork."
A reporter from the local paper waved to ask: "Why did you say remember to save your fork?" We already demolished the Eiffel Tower." Everyone laughed.
"As a child," the birthday celebrant explained, "we were poorer than proverbial church mice. On rare occasions when I heard that special phrase, I knew the best was yet to come." She paused. "Those words became my motto for life."
Indeed, Bette’s history had not been without its deep dark valleys but she’d always bounced back up to the next mountain peak. No wonder, with a motto like that. We clapped again for her spirit, example, and accomplishments.
When the room had quieted, Bette, holding herself erect with immense dignity, added, "Living that motto has made all the difference in my life. In fact," and here her face molded into the wry and humorous expression many of us had grown to love, "when I die, I want a giant fork displayed at my memorial service. Even then, the best is yet to come." Everyone applauded again, many through misty eyes.
Metaphorically, many individuals, who have been adapting away from their innate giftedness, have neglect to save their fork in life. In their disappointment, discouragement, fatigue, and even depression they believe that the best is behind them, not ahead. How sad! Knowledge plus informed application can change this perspective.
As Wayne Dyer put it, You’ll See It When You Believe It.
Remember: save your fork!