Realizations Inc

Q. I recently attended one of your seminars and heard you talk about the 20:80 Rule. That’s a good theory, but do you really think people actually apply what you share?

Q. I grew up in a family of “blamers,” and I didn’t like it but I don’t really know how to get out of that habit pattern.

Q. My wife wants me to attend The Brain Program with her. As a corporate VP, I need a logical reason to attend.

Q. Personal growth. I’m so tired of that buzz word. I’ve heard you suggest the BTSA... how does that tie in with this tiresome concept? 

Q. I recently heard you say something about taking care of your brain "by design." Whatever does that mean?

Q. How can you transition away from an attitude of personal powerlessness and defeatism?

Q. How will loss affect my children?

Q. Someone quoted you as saying, "life is a choice." Give me a break! Life is not a choice!

Q. Before I lost my father to cancer, the Hospice volunteer discussed with him the Stages of Death and Dying. While it gave him some peace, it hasn’t done much for me. Is there something wrong with my brain? I’d appreciate your comments.

Q. My 10-year old son takes trumpet lessons; my 13-year old daughter plays flute. Sometimes they "blank out" at recitals and forget the notes. Why do I get so embarrassed?

Q. The last of my three children will be graduating from high school in June and going away to college in August (even though he could have attended the local junior college for a couple of years). I have been dreading that day since he was born. Whatever will I do with myself when there are no children at home for me to care for?

Q. I usually pack on some extra pounds around the holidays and then spend the next 10 months trying to divest myself of them. How can I change that?

Q. Sometimes I feel like I'm about to fall off the edge. What do you do when you feel that way?

Q. How can family-of-origin work help me and my relationships?

Q. A friend of mine overheard you remark “Forgiveness is a gift you give yourself.” Whatever do you mean by that comment?

Q. I tested as having a fairly high IQ but routinely have difficulty communicating with most people. Do you have any suggestions?”

Q. I just beat myself up again for another stupid mistake! Do you ever do that to yourself?

Q. Will I ever be able to put this loss behind me and go on?

Q. Recently a friend and I were discussing The Brain Program. She said it was one thing to believe strongly in something but quite another to spend your time flying around the country lecturing. I’ve always respected this woman and don’t quite know what to do with her comment.

Q.  I’m trying very hard to prevent problems for my teenagers and to fix the ones I identify. I have done this since they were babies. They tell me to stop smothering them, to stop interfering, but I just want to give them the best start possible in life. Recently a friend told me that not only am I creating dependence in my five children but also depriving them of the opportunity to learn how to deal with the ups and down of life now, in childhood. I told her she was way off base but decided to ask your opinion.

Q. Nearly every day someone ruins mine. Is this going to happen for the rest of my life?

Q. I suffer from severe depression and take antidepressants, which have mostly stopped thoughts of suicide. My doctor told me that I need to “change the way you think” if I get a suicidal thought (which I sometimes do if I get exhausted and lose sleep). I’m not sure what that means.

Q. Please help me understand the difference between “simple” and “easy” as you use these terms in your seminars.

Q. “The Secret.” Have you read the book or watched the video? I don’t get how thinking different thoughts can help at all! Are they off base?

Q. Every time something stressful happens I ask, “Why me?” But I never get an answer!

Q. Why was I spared when others were injured or killed in a bus accident?

Q. I was taught that "life is hard and then you die." Given that perspective, why bother trying to figure out who I am innately anyway?